It’s Fall in Colorado which means the leaves are beginning to change and the weather is getting a bit crisper – I love this season!  However, in the past, the changing leaves served as reminder to me that it’s almost Q4 which meant crunch time, late nights and anxiety to ensure that I hit the annual sales/business goals. This year, I’ve made a deliberate choice to view the last few months of the year as an opportunity for rejuvenation and reflection on my annual objectives. I’m also really trying to take the time to appreciate the progress I’ve achieved. One of my goals for this year was to spend more time with inspiring and challenging women.

Last week, I was invited to join two incredibly inspiring women for dinner, both CEO’s in male-dominated industries. We talked about their resilience and triumphs to get to the top of their fields. I listened to both of them FRAME their past and the challenges in a way that surprised me – they spoke of very difficult times and how they grew from them. They both noted a podcast they listened to recently that hit home for them both, so I gave it a listen. WOW! I was also very inspired by much of what I heard and learned so I wanted to pass it along and share some highlights, and specifically that of the FRAME.

The podcast, featuring Dr. Benjamin Hardy and Ed Mylett, delves into the importance of the “frame” we place on situations, particularly our past. While I had previously thought of this as simply positive thinking, this episode took it to another level for me. Here’s the essence:

  • Positive experience in the present means I have a useful past and a purposeful future.
  • You can use your “physiological flexibility” to control this and view situations from different perspectives.
  • The episode offers practical tips to gain control over your thoughts. For example, many people think that life happens TO them, but if you start to believe that life is happening BECAUSE of me, it’ll reinforce your role as the one in control. What I love about this is that it takes any situation where you felt like the victim, and allows you to re-frame the situation to where you’re in control.

I witnessed this in action recently when my client, Sarah, was unexpectedly laid off from a company where she spent the past decade. Initially, she felt a range of anger emotions including denial, blame, insecurity, etc. She was ashamed to tell people that she was let go. But after a few weeks of working together, she started to reframe her situation. Instead of framing it as a negative reflection of her performance, she started to think about it as a catapult to gaining courage to start a new career venture that she always dreamt of. Now when Sarah speaks of that experience, she sees it with gratitude.

Another key question to ponder when something happens to you and you gain a belief of it is to ask, “Does this belief serve me?” If the answer is NO, then your next question might be, “what would I need to believe about that experience so that it would serve me?”  Then be repetitive about the belief until it becomes your frame.

Easier said than done, I know! This reframe takes a lot of practice.

What’s one situation from your past that you can re-FRAME to change your present or future?

As I think about the next few months and the year coming to a close, I am choosing to FRAME it with excitement around my progress this year. I will choose to celebrate and embrace the momentum vs letting any gaps in my progress stress me out. With that celebration, I’m also working on my IMPOSSIBLE Goals. Stay tuned!